trials and tribulations of mentorship

Yesterday evening at a reception, one of the people I call mentor, gave me the blunt honest truth about my unruly behavior. As painful as it is to be criticized, it is often necessary…especially for me…. This morning (at 4:30AM) I awoke to a cat pawing at my sheets and an argument in my head (inspired by my mentor’s observations). The nagging question: How do I stick up for myself and empathize with others all at the same time. It seems impossible…

So I get out of bed, have coffee and a muffin and do my morning chores. The question continues to nag…. I come inside and pick up the deck of Zen cards – shuffle them around in my hands until I am absolutely sure I am there – pick five cards….

My new observation is: I can work on feeling compassion for others while being loyal to myself.

Here are the cards (in the order received) given to me by this morning’s universe:

  1. Compassion – FEEL the pain of others.  Understand their struggles and disappointments, their hardships and inadequacies, and open your heart to them.  REALIZE that everyone is doing the best they possibly can.  Judge no one. But rather, cradle all of humanity in your heart.
  2. Zen Mind – EXPERIENCE all things with the enthusiasm of a child, as if you were seeing it for the FIRST time.  This is the Zen mind, always new, always always aware, always that of a beginner.  (without resentment)
  3. Loyalty – Become loyal to your innermost TRUTH. Follow the way when all others abandon it.  Walk the PATH of your own heart.
  4. Joy – Joy is INSIDE you. Not in attainment of things desired, nor in the achievement of goals made, but in the simple feeling that lies within you.  Know that this JOY is unaffected by outer circumstance, and joy will be yours forever. (wow – this is a tall order)
  5. Success – SUCCESS is not found in what you have achieved, but rather in WHO you have become.  (I think this is the most important)

4 thoughts on “trials and tribulations of mentorship

  1. RA Friedman

    Everything that enlightens is also a burden until it becomes poetry.
    The student must eventually assassinate the teacher (metaphorically).
    We think to turn off thinking and just be.
    All is paradox.

Comments are closed.